Thursday, October 9, 2008

Mothers with guns

I am getting some comments from people who have read my blog and think I made the wrong decision when I decided to arm myself. "It won't help against terrorists." "Guns are dangerous to have in the house with children." They give me their statistics and facts.

I understand how they feel. I used to agree with them.

I know that having guns won't protect me against a terrorist flying a plane into a building or against a bomb, etc. It won't protect me against something I can't see like a sniper. I may never even have to use it (and I hope I don't!) .

But what if I do?

There is one thing that no man can understand, and that's how it feels to be a mother. I am much smaller than most men. I could never win in any kind of physical confrontation, and there's not too much I can do to protect myself. I've been there when some man thought he could take advantage of that. It's a pretty scary thing to go through your life feeling vulnerable. But I thought I just had to accept it. Add to that the responsibility to protect your children. If I can't even protect myself, how can I protect them? I would give my own life any day to protect theirs. Those teachers at Cooper Middle School and at Virginia Tech would, too. Sometimes there's absolutely nothing you can do, like when my daughter died. I was helpless. But maybe, just maybe, I can protect someone some day. And even if I never do, I don't feel like a walking target. That in itself is a big thing.

No man can ever understand how it feels when a woman realizes, for the first time ever, that she is not defenseless. More women should know what it's like.

Here's an example. One of my daughters is married to a firefighter. His shift takes him away from home for days at a time. She lives in a different state, far away from me. My daughter spends many nights alone with her baby girl. One night two houses on her street were broken into. The burglar entered the homes through the garage which all have automatic door openers. He somehow could get the doors open without tampering with them. My daughter called me and told me that when her husband heard about it, he went out and bought a gun for my daughter and took her shooting. She now feels safer in the house during the many nights he is gone. I feel safer knowing that she could protect herself and my granddaughter. She, like her mother, does not just leave the gun lying around where children can get to it. She is actually taking the opposite view to "It's dangerous to have guns in the house when you have children." She has concluded that it might be dangerous NOT to have guns in the house when you have children.

We can't stop everything. But some women have stopped intruders in their own homes. Some have stopped killers who were trying to shoot other people. I remember the woman who stopped a shooter at her church in Colorado. The press called her a "Security Officer." She was just a volunteer, and she saved lives. I wish there would have been someone like her at Virginia Tech.

I've always focused on "Guns Kill People." Guns also save people. Maybe I will save one someday. Maybe not. But there's a huge sense of empowerment that comes with knowing that I have a choice.


Devich said...

I wasn't born in California, but I spent a long time there. And I, too, got used to the anti-gun mentality, such that when I moved to Texas, I was afraid when told that Texas had concealed carry. Everyone could potentially shoot me! And the rumors, you know, in California that Texas is racist. I am not white, you see. In fact, I came to find that people in this particular town are very mannerly, and selfless. As a health care worker, I've seen two accidents involving guns, and both of them were with people who did not properly learn how to take care of or handle a gun. Ignorance is not bliss. I think gun education should be mandatory. Another aside, those two accidents were not fatal, and did not involve a dispute. The one fatal accident involving a dispute was not due to a gun, but a very hard smack to the head by a bare fist. I'd like to see politicians run on a platform to outlaw hands.
What convinced me to get my CCW license was that a man with unmedicated schizophrenia broke into an elderly couple's house in my neighborhood. He managed to stab the man of the house several times and put him out of commission, but his wife (a woman in her 70's) saved him because she was able to get her handgun out in time and shoot the intruder. How often is a schizo guy going to break into one's home? Pretty unlikely, but for just this random happenstance, she was prepared. And I am all for being prepared.

Pretty Pistolera said...

There was a day when I realized I was completely defenseless against a predator. It was a rude awakening when I realized the boogeyman does exist. I wish more women would get a clue about self defense. Keep up the good work!

Firehand said...

It's been amazing to me how many women seem, almost brainwashed, into declaring the single most effective tool they have for self-defense is 'evil'. A gun is a tool, and like any tool can be misused; that does not make the tool 'bad' or 'evil'.

I've also spoken with- more properly 'lectured to'- about the evils of self-defense using anything other than words. People who actually believe that using force of ANY kind in self-defense makes you as morally wrong as your attacker. I just cannot wrap my mind around that garbage. I wouldn't mind them believing it for themselves, but they want me- and my daughter and everyone else- to be forced to live by their belief. Screw that. I taught my daughter to shoot originally because there would be guns in the house, and she WOULD know how to handle them properly. Later that moved into self-defense use, and it makes me feel a lot better that she's got more than words to use if needed.

mikeb302000 said...

I wrote a post about this recently.